A WORD IN DEFENCE OF THE RETIRED FARANG
By Steve Wade
Everyone’s heard them. The stories of farangs, usually older males, who come here to Thailand and especially Pattaya and lose their hearts and their bank balances to a good looking bar girl who will inevitably have numerous family members that come along with the deal.
First of all, let’s get this straight. When girls in Pattaya or anywhere else in Thailand say they have to take care of their families, that is exactly what they mean. In other words, they have to feed them, clothe them and put food on the table for grandparents, parents and their own children who may be left behind in the village while they go to work. Therefore the money they send may literally be the difference between food and shelter for their families or not. The social safety net that we farangs all take for granted back at home doesn’t exist here.
And now let’s’ talk about the men who come here for various reasons. Not all the stories you hear will have unhappy endings but just as in the real world good news is no news and doesn’t make for good gossip in a city like Pattaya.
I have several friends here who having worked all their lives in various countries,especially in the UK, and have decided to come to Thailand where things are much cheaper most importantly accommodation and some other essentials of life, and where the warm weather helps their creaking bones as they get older - myself included. They have met a Thai lady over here and some have spent many happy years taking care of each other as they get older, and I resent the fact and I do not feel that anyone has the right to tell these people how to live their lives. So I feel it is unfair to categorise all the farang men and of course it is equally unfair to categorise all the Thai women as being the same. Generalisation just doesn’t help.
The branding of the older retired people living here on state pensions and limited budgets as “Cheap Charlies” is also unfair and the advice of certain people, especially people who haven’t done their 40 or 50 years work in the UK is not only disrespectful but pretty damn stupid if you ask me.
So all in all let’s have a bit more tolerance and understanding for the older generation, of which I am one. It’s always better to be in Thailand with a good and loyal partner and the sun on your back with a limited budget, rather than sitting back in the UK in the winter
deciding whether to eat or turn your heating up on any given day.
So good luck to all the retired guys in Pattaya. H
ere’s hoping you all find a good woman and plenty of cheap beers !
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